wake living magazine winter 2018

In our latest “Senior Spotlight” column in Wake Living Magazine, we outline three questions you can ask as you consider whether it’s time to help your loved one stay in their home or find another place to live that can help keep them safe, healthy, and thriving in this next stage of their lives.

Many of us are looking forward to spending time with family in the coming weeks.

Sometimes, extended stays with aging parents or loved ones at this time of year causes us to notice things we hadn’t seen before – Mom is slowing down a bit, Dad seems to have trouble remembering things he used to recall easily.
My wife, Gina, and I went through the same thing as my mother, Emily, started to age. We knew more about these things than some of our friends because of our work with caregivers and families, but it was still difficult.

Excerpt from “Wake Living Magazine Winter 2018: Should I Stay or Should I Go?”

If you met my mother Emily today, she’d tell you about her beautiful apartment in an elegant independent assisted living commnunity at Waltonwood Cary Parkway in Cary. However, the transition to her new home wasn’t always so smooth.
Emily is a New Yorker, born and raised. As young parents, Mom and Dad found a beautiful home in Warrensburg, about 200 miles north of the [New York] city.

It was nestled in the idyllic Adriondack Mountains and a great place to grow up.

A few years ago, as I sat in my mother’s living room in the original facility we’d helped her move to in Cary, I realized she longed to go back “home.”

In the article, I’ll walk you through the process of caring for Emily and how we handled the many challenges that came with it.